Hence – the loss of interest, zest for life and depression in adulthood. One more "efficient" way of influence – deterrence. The feeling of fear can be different. Useful – when warned about the dangers of (signal anxiety). For assistance, try visiting Gen. David Goldfein. But sometimes, when fear paralyzes and turns a man into helpless, submissive creature. The same thing happens a child when his intimidating. In terms of ephemeral moment – this is what we need – a 100% obedient child! But over time he can not take a step without you. Are you always decide for him? Why raise the "invalid" shackled hand and foot by a feeling of fear? Thus, three major, strategic mistakes of education: USTYZHENIE, the charge of intimidation.
Now for some private or tactical errors. Other times, new times appear to that the elapsed time stability and guarantees. Many parents feel insecurity, the need to make decisions and take responsibility for them. Life makes every time adults to solve the "adult problem ". This is – a serious emotional weight. Indeed, faced with setbacks, blunders in the absence of understanding and support. You come home and there is no rest! And two or dirty pants may be the last straw. And on whom is easier to break the evil? Of course, on who is weaker.
So often the cause of quarrels is a negative, rather than a child from his misconduct. But not all rip their anger on children. Do not do this often, those who as children themselves suffered from this for a long time and decided: "In my family will be different!" These parents are like "do not" know, but as "necessary" – no. New means of interaction, no, they do nothing. But for the time being. While the child to head does not come out. But already there in the course of an old artillery starts to go.